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When the thought doesn’t really count
By rebekah
What is the world’s best package to find in your mailbox? BOOKS! So when the other day I found a very book-like package waiting for me in my mailbox, of course I was excited. But when I looked at the return address and saw that the books were from my very Southern-Baptist aunt and uncle from Alabama, my excitement quickly turned to trepidation.

My aunt & uncle, in front of their custom-made cross lawn ornament, complete with a verse from Joshua (read: Old Testament hero who commits genocide)
I haven’t heard from this aunt and uncle of mine in a number of years, so I was pretty curious to see what was inside the envelope. Sure enough, there were 2 books: Heaven is for Real: A little boy’s astounding story of his trip to heaven and back and Lee Strobel’s The Case for Faith: A Journalist Investigates the Toughest Objections to Christianity.
Right off the bat I could see that these were books that I would not pull off a shelf. I probably wouldn’t even read them if I was stuck in a waiting room for hours on end.
Heaven is For Real is about the near-death experience of a four-year-old boy who allegedly visits heaven and then comes back to tell his parents. The tagline on the back of the book reads: “Heaven is for Real will forever change the way you think of eternity, offering the chance to see, and believe, like a child.” [the communication instructor in me cringes at that comma splice, while the nonbeliever in me cringes at the glorification of willful ignorance]
On the inside cover of the book, my aunt wrote an inscription where she comments on how she believes my little girl (who is also four years old, like the book’s protagonist) has “a spiritual awareness” in addition to her being “precious and pure and innocent.”
While part of me wants to wants to only see the good will she has in sending me this book, there’s a larger gnawing part that’s upset in how she’s using my daughter as an impetus to bring me back to Jesus. I can’t help but think she’s purposely drawing an analogue between this little boy who almost died and my very healthy little girl.
But the book that annoys me the most is the inclusion of Strobel’s The Case for Faith. The inscription from my uncle just reads: “An intellectual case that is pretty hard to refute.”
Oh! Don’t even get me started on what I think about Strobel. I find him to be the fast-food version of most Christian apologists today. Strobel is known for his book The Case for Christ, where he originally sets out to disprove God, using his supposed investigative journalist skills, only to find Jesus in the end [here's a good rebuttal of his book].
Perhaps I’m a little spoiled after having coffee and discussion with one of the top Christian debaters/apologists, William Lane Craig. While I’d like to think I’m open to reading and discussing Christian literature with my family, I would rather spend my reading time being challenged, and not patronized.
But beyond the poor quality of Strobel’s work/approach, I also resent his schtick of always identifying himself as a former atheist. I suppose he thinks it gives him a certain cachet in the Christian world, but I find it cringeworthy. He notoriously describes his prior “atheistic lifestyle” as one “without a moral framework, my personal life was out of control, the drinking, the carousing” — all descriptions that his evangelical audience eats up, and then summarily applies to how they envision the life of an atheist.
I’m not sure how I should respond to these books, or if there’s even a need to. I’ve always had an open-door policy with my very religious family, where I want them to talk to me about my atheism. But somehow this “care package” doesn’t feel like an invitation for thoughtful discussion. Receiving these books in the mail just reminds me of how little my family knows about who I am.
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about 1 year ago
” He notoriously describes his prior “atheistic lifestyle” as one “without a moral framework, my personal life was out of control, the drinking, the carousing” — all descriptions that his evangelical audience eats up, and then summarily applies to how they envision the life of an atheist.”–SO TRUE!!!
Great read. I enjoyed it.
about 1 year ago
Fox news did an interview with boy mentioned above and his family. You can find it on Youtube if you need a few laughs, or happen to be in the mood for the most contrived collaboration of pseudo-religious fluff EVER! lol
about 1 year ago
Print out the rebuttal and print, not really that hard on the cover sheet, send it to your uncle.
Did you know there are 21 rules in which to follow when placing a comma? Who the hell can remember 21 rules for a comma?
Yes, it was to draw the connection and spur the guilt trip.
Send her The Humanist Approach to Happiness: Practical Wisdom Written by Jennifer Hancock.
With a thank you note telling her how your reading her books and when she is done hers you would like to discuss them. Then wait to hear from them again. That aught to give you a break from hearing from them for a while longer.
about 1 year ago
The God Delusion makes a great gift for birthdays and CHRISTmas.
about 1 year ago
Great post. I agree, send them atheist stuff. Is there an atheist book where someone pretends to look for God and finds atheism? Kind of a reverse Strobel? That might help.
about 1 year ago
Julia Sweeney…
about 1 year ago
At one point she was supposed to write a book called “My Beautiful Loss of Faith” — but I don’t think that ever materialized. I do have her one-woman show on CD, though.
I’m starting to envision my return “care package” to Alabama — and Sweeney’s show would be great to add!
I’m also thinking of including Dan Barker’s “Godless” book, since he was once an evangelical (like my aunt and uncle) and now isn’t. Hmmm…
about 1 year ago
“Heaven is for Real will forever change the way you think of eternity, offering the chance to see, and believe, like a child.”
Sorry, I can’t find the comma splice you mention. It is an awkward sentence, but the sentence contains only one independent clause.
about 1 year ago
I think I saw two clauses there and thought it needed a coordinating conjunction between eternity and offering. Whoops.
That said, in rereading my post, I’ve found other grammatical errors of my own doing — though I’ll chalk those up to my emotional state (read: pissed off) when I first wrote my post.
about 1 year ago
I suggest thanking them for the books and asking in return that they read your gift, Letter to a Christian Nation by Sam Harris. It is short, gentle, and solidly convincing to an open mind. They will not read anything longer with a more trenchant title.
If they would, Misquoting Jesus by Bart Ehrman would be good.